Proposal Do’s and Don’ts from a Destination Wedding Planner

Popping the big question is the first step in starting married life together with your partner. But the proposal itself can be as big of a step as the marriage! As a local and destination wedding planner, we’ve seen countless proposals (and helped plan them). Here are a few of our proposal do’s and don’ts to keep in mind as you plan this next step with your soon-to-be-spouse! 

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Here’s What You Should Do

DO Talk About Marriage Ahead of Proposing

While surprise proposals can be a fun and unexpected experience for your soon-to-be-fiance, marriage is a big decision that you should make as a couple. There are a number of considerations to discuss before promising to share a life together — babies, your financial situations, where you want to live, whether you like their pets, etc. Having those conversations before your proposal can help you feel confident that you’re both on the same page regarding your future. 

DO Consider Your Partner’s Ring Preferences

Jewelry is a personal style choice and engagement rings are no exception. Traditionally, you pick out your ring for your partner without including them in the process. While surprise rings can be a lovely and beloved gift, try to determine your partner’s jewelry style and preferences before making your choice. Family, friends, or even asking your partner can be an easy way to make sure you’re looking in the right direction.

DO Consider What You’d Like to Say

Proposals come in all different shapes and sizes. You can profess your love to your partner in many words or few, get right to the question or take your time. Whatever proposal style you’re going for, consider what you’d like to say before you’re down on one knee. You don’t need a full script (unless you’re the memorizing type), but having a couple points you want to touch on or practicing asking the big question can help you feel less nervous when you’re down on one knee.

Here’s What You Don’t Want to Do

DON’T Propose In Public If You’re Not Confident About A Yes

Public proposals can be a fun experience for you, your partner, and your audience, but only if the answer is yes. A public proposal puts a lot of pressure on your partner to say yes (even if they may have had a different answer in mind), so make sure that you’re feeling confident in your partner’s answer before taking this leap. 

DON’T Get Caught Up In Finding The Perfect Moment

Proposing to your partner can be a nerve-wracking event. Try not to get too caught up in finding the perfect moment to pop the question. Like most things in life (and marriage!), your plans may not go exactly as expected. While having a plan for your proposal — popping the question on a beach in Mexico, on top of a mountain in Colorado, or snuggled up in your pajamas together on the couch — helps you know when to have the ring handy, you don’t need the perfect moment to ask your partner to join you in marriage. After all, marriage is just one more step in your journey together. 

Want help planning your perfect proposal (either in the United States or anywhere else in the world)? Get in touch and we can help you plan the perfect proposal!