Rocky Mountain Wedding Planner Advice: Should You Postpone Your Wedding?
The stay-at-home order was extended last week for the state of Colorado and this has brought up a lot of unsettled feelings and possibly some tough decisions for many of our 2020 couples. Our couples become friends and family to us. But instead of sharing in their excited anticipation, we are now sharing in their potential heartbreak. The Blue Linden couples that are weeks and months from their special day have been in touch with us often and we’ve already had detailed discussions regarding postponing the big day. I love my job and we want our couples to remember …
We are stronger together.
You have a team to help you through these decisions.
We are honored to be by your side every step of the way.
Stay Calm. We Will Carry on!
Are you considering postponing your wedding? We know this decision weighs heavily on you and it is filled with doubt and anxiety. But let’s be proactive and talk through next steps as a team! Together, we will get through this and we are here to support you! Here are 7 tips to help you decide if you should postpone or carry on.
Considerations in Postponing a Wedding
There are many considerations to keep in mind, but your mindset through it all is so important! Which brings me to the number one aspect of this decision process:
1. Try to keep calm and “get out of your head.” Let’s approach this intellectually, not emotionally. No rash decisions. No panic. For now, let’s just gather information in order to make the best decision for you and your loved ones.
Now we are ready for the tactical list of the task at hand.
2. Let’s review all your contracts. What are the venue and vendor policies for rescheduling given these extraordinary circumstances? Many venues and vendors are waiving any rescheduling fees. Let’s inquire so you know what your options are. (Yes, this may mean I’m able to use my mad spreadsheet skills!)
3. Let’s look at alternative dates that will work for you, the venue and your vendors. The biggest hurdle may be finding another “perfect” date. Odds are most venues and vendors have already booked their 2020 Saturdays but we can get creative! How about a Wednesday or Thursday wedding? Are you willing to postpone to 2021? Now is the time to talk with your family to see what is best for the majority of your guests. You won’t be able to please everyone but what feels right for you and your fiancé? Go with your gut!!!
4. The next hurdle to overcome is vendor availability. Let’s talk about what vendors are most important to you. Rescheduling may mean you may not be able to keep all of them due to previous commitments they have made. What vendors are you not willing to proceed without? Once you decide that, we will need to prioritize the days they are available.
5. Communicate with your guests. There are a number of ways to do this. Update your website with the new date. Send an email to all your guests. Send new invitations. Or our favorite, download an app that allows you to communicate with your guests in real-time. You can provide all the information in a snap and continue sending updates as the wedding approaches.
Now we have the information we need to make an intellectual decision. Let’s talk about ramifications of moving forward regardless if you are postponing or carrying on with your original date.
6. When your special day occurs, it is possible that not everyone will still be able to attend. Let’s include those guests that cannot attend by live-streaming the ceremony so they can share in your joy and still be part of your day.
7. If you are stressing about financial ramifications due to COVID 19 we can negotiate a new payment schedule that is manageable for you.
Determining if you should postpone your wedding or continue on, we want you to rest assured we are in this together.
What we know:
We know how to approach all things with kindness and understanding.
We know how to continue to keep humor in the mix (if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry – both are appropriate right now).
We know that this too shall pass.