Proposal do's and don'ts: Advice from expert wedding planner

Kaylinn and Scott’s wedding captured by Lara Photography.

Popping the big question is an exciting and nerve-wracking moment that marks the beginning of your journey into married life. As a seasoned destination wedding planner, I've witnessed countless proposals and had the pleasure of helping plan many of them. So, let me share some valuable proposal do's and don'ts to ensure that your special moment goes off without a hitch and leaves your soon-to-be-fiancé saying "Yes!" with pure joy.

Here's what you should do:

Talk about marriage ahead of proposing:

While surprise proposals have their allure, marriage is a significant decision that should be made as a couple. It's essential to have open and honest conversations about your future together before popping the question. Discuss topics like your shared aspirations, financial situation, living preferences, and even adorable pets. Being on the same page about your future will give you both the confidence to take this exciting step forward.

Consider your partner's ring preferences:

Engagement rings are a symbol of love and commitment, and it's crucial to choose a ring that matches your partner's style and preferences. Take the time to discover their jewelry tastes before making a selection. You can discreetly gather insights from their family and friends or even engage them in a casual conversation about rings. Ensuring you're on the right track will make the ring presentation all the more special.

Consider what you'd like to say:

Proposals come in all shapes and sizes, just like couples themselves. Whether you plan a grand gesture or an intimate moment, it's essential to think about what you'd like to say. While you don't need a full script unless you're a master memorizer, having a few key points or practicing the big question can help ease your nerves when the time comes. Be sincere, heartfelt, and true to yourself, and your words will touch your partner's heart.

Here's what you don't want to do:

Don't propose in public if you're not confident about a yes:

Public proposals can be incredibly romantic and memorable, but they also come with added pressure. If you have any doubts about your partner's answer, it's best to avoid proposing in a public setting. Remember, a proposal is a deeply personal moment between the two of you, and you want your partner to feel comfortable and able to respond honestly. Choose a private and intimate setting where they can freely express their true feelings.

Don't get caught up in finding the perfect moment:

Planning a proposal can be exhilarating, and it's natural to strive for perfection. However, don't let the quest for the perfect moment overshadow the significance of the occasion. Understand that life rarely goes exactly according to plan, and that's okay. While having a general plan is helpful, don't stress if the circumstances aren't picture-perfect. Ultimately, it's your love and commitment that matter most, regardless of the time, place, or setting.

If you're dreaming of a truly memorable and well-executed proposal, whether in the United States or anywhere else in the world, my team and I are here to help. As experienced destination wedding planners, we have the expertise and creativity to craft the perfect proposal tailored to your unique love story. Get in touch with us, and let's create a proposal that will be forever etched in your hearts.

Remember, the proposal is just the beginning of your incredible journey together. Enjoy the process, embrace the excitement, and celebrate the love that brought you to this beautiful moment. Cheers to a lifetime of happiness and unforgettable memories!